Welcome to the next step in our discovery of happiness.
Yes, we all desire to be happy and we want our children to be happy as well. In fact, we want all our loved ones and our friends to experience happiness. Yet, there are many things which stand between us and our happiness. One such a thing is fear. Now, I know that many of you will deny that you are afraid, but even more will ask how, living in the world we are living in today, can we NOT be afraid?
Fear is real and we all experience some form of fear on a daily basis. Yes, of course the ideal would be to eradicate all feelings of fear from our lives, however, because we live in a real world, with real problems and dangers, filled with real people acting out their own agendas, fear cannot simply be ignored. After all, bravery does not mean the absence of fear, but it means taking action in the presence of fear. We have to become the master of fear.
Fear has a way to keep us trapped. It ties us up in knots of inaction. We cannot pursue our dreams, because we are too afraid. We cannot apply for that new job, join a new group or go on an adventure because we are simply too scared. Scared of what? This is the answer we need to look for. We have to identify the monster. As long as we simply say that we are afraid, the monster is faceless and so fierce. We have to come face to face with it, see its features. What is it you are afraid of? Failure, rejection or ridicule? Do you fear loneliness, attention or commitment? Maybe you fear disappointment, being caught off-guard or feeling that you are in the dark?
Whatever it is, you have to understand the origin of it. Knowledge is one of our strongest weapons against fear. Be Aware of what it is that you fear.
Once you have identified your fear, it is time to banish it from your life. Renounce it. Refuse to allow your fear to have authority over you any longer.
Now you need to take stock of your abilities, your talents and your potential. Acknowledge your strengths.
However, we have to do more than simply recognizing our abilities and strengths, we have to take action and do so with assertiveness. Taking action validates our skills and competence.
This all in turn empowers us to be brave. When we are brave we loosen the ties which bind us to the fear monster. It releases us from its stranglehold.
Go on, let go of your fear, be brave :
B - Be aware
R - Renounce
A - Acknowledge
V - Validate
E - Empower
... and be happy!