An important part of being happy is our ability to take responsibility for our own lives and actions. We have to be truthful with ourselves. However, we often deny the role we play in our own lives and happiness. Facing ourselves, our shortcomings and obligations pushes us out of our comfort zones. It is easier to point our finger at somebody or something else, thus putting the blame elsewhere. In a way this re-assignment of blame folds us into a cocoon of false happiness, but instead of feeling happy we become more stressed, and more agitated. When we constantly blame other people or situations we enter a realm of denial. In this kingdom of denial I become the victim of a "conspiracy". "Everybody is against me, every situation turns against me and the whole world conspires to make my life miserable." We are no longer in control of our lives. This mindset leads as down a slippery road to misery.
In order top regain control of our selves we have to face the truth. We have to stop pointing fingers at others and start admitting the role I play in my own life. I have to take responsibility for my own actions. Nobody can "make" me feel or act in a certain way, because the CHOICE is mine as to how I am going to re-act to their words or actions. I am not a victim in my life, I am a participant. It is up to myself to take ownership of my decisions, my actions and re-actions. I am responsible for my own thoughts and feelings, my past and my future. It is my choice to ask for guidance and my choice to follow the advice of others or my own ideas.
So, stop pointing a finger at others, because, lo and behold, there are three others pointing back at you.