Law Of Attraction 3

Last week we agreed that the law of attraction comes with a choice.  We can choose what we want to attract in our lives.  However, what if life throws us a curveball?  Let's face it, life has a way of happening when we are making other plans.  At the moment, South Africa is experiencing a rough patch.  We are facing Covid 19 and economic difficulties. Furthermore, we have woken up this morning to a country that is quite unsettled.  Many people will face difficult days, weeks, and even months because of what is happening right now.  Where is the choice in this?  They certainly did nothing to attract this trouble in their lives.  They are victims of events beyond their control.  

Still, we have a choice.  We can choose how to react to what is happening. That is where our true power lies.  Our response to any given situation will determine our destiny.  Trials and tribulations are a part of life.  We will not always be able to avoid conflict or disappointment. However, we always have a choice of how to respond or react to it.  There is always a way to get through any situation. The trick is to find the best way.  

Life often takes us by surprise.  It seems as everything is going well and we are feeling on top of the world. Then, unexpectedly, we are confronted by a sudden change.  It is a natural instinct to immediately react to the situation.  However, the best reaction is no reaction.  Take a deep breath and pause a while.  Assess the problem.  Gather all the information you can. Talk about it to somebody you can trust and think about all the possible ways you could respond to the situation.  When we simply react to any given event, it usually comes from our emotions, but when we take the time to evaluate the problem, we engage our emotional intelligence.  The result is usually to our advantage.

By taking time before we respond, we empower ourselves.  We now have the power of choice.  Instead of being a victim, we can now take charge of the situation.  We now control the way we respond.  We can now attract the outcome that we desire. Remember, be vigilant, and guard your thoughts. Carefully assess the situation.

React vs respond, which way will you go? Share your thoughts with me. I would love to hear from you.  Watch my blog for the next installment.

 

Law of Attraction 2

We are still talking about the law of attraction. One of the great things about the law of attraction is that it always comes with a choice. We can choose what we want to attract in our lives. It is not random. What we think and what actions we take determines what we will attract and manifest in our lives.

 In the last post, I proposed that you examine your thoughts. I asked you to identify your negative thoughts and to ask yourself three crucial questions about these thoughts. Whatever your answer is to the first question, yes or no, leads you to the second question.

It is essential to identify our negative thinking and what triggers our negative thoughts. Once we are clear about it, we can proceed to change these negative thoughts for positive ones.  

For example, 'I don't deserve anything good' change it to 'I deserve to be happy and successful.'

Change 'I am not worthy'  to 'My life is valuable.'

Do this with every negative thought. Jot it down and repeat this to yourself every day.

Fill your thoughts with daily positive affirmations. Speak them out loud. Believe them and take action.

A positive mindset improves our mood, boosts our feeling of well-being, and it helps to reduce stress. Positive people feel less frustrated and have more energy. It increases our ability to be more productive and recognize opportunities.

Have a wonderful day, and keep practicing your positive affirmations.

 

Law of Attraction

These days we hear a lot about the Law of Attraction, but what is that exactly? In short, it is the belief that a positive mindset will bring about positive results. Positive thoughts attract success. We live in a world where energy is all around us. It is also within us. Everything, from our actions to our thoughts, is loaded with energy particles. Every thought you have is an electrical impulse.

Because thoughts are energy, they can change our reality. However, they cannot operate on their own. Let us imagine that our brain is like a car. A car has the potential to move from point A to point B. It has the potential to go fast or slow. However, a car needs an engine to make this possible. This engine is like our thoughts. We think how wonderful it would be to go to the mall, or on a trip. We can imagine what it would feel like and what we would do when we get there. Yet, until we start the car, we are just sitting there in the driveway. For our vehicle to go on the journey will depend on whether we turn the ignition. We have to drive from point A to point B. That is how positive thoughts attract positive outcomes by actually putting action to our thoughts.

There is a snag, however. We have the car(our brain), our car has an engine (our thoughts), but something else is needed for the engine to go when we turn the ignition(take action). We need fuel. Our beliefs are the fuel we need to change thoughts into action. We have to believe that we can do it. We have to have faith it will be a success.

Henry Ford said that whether you think you can or you can't, you're right.

Our thoughts form our beliefs, and our beliefs manifest in our actions. A positive mindset will attract positive results by taking the necessary steps.

It all starts with one important step. Firstly you have to examine your thought patterns. You have to identify your negative thinking. Write down every negative or self-deprecating thought you have. Be brutally honest. Now ask yourself three questions. Is this thought true? Does it serve any positive purpose in your life? With what positive thought can I replace the negative one? Write these answers down and think about them. In my next blog post, we will discuss these in more detail.

Have a wonderful day. Be blessed.

 

Seven Keys

                                              

The first of July. The seventh month of the year was named for Julius Caesar. Today I want to share with you seven key ideas to practise for July. Firstly, ignore other people's judgements and drama. Julius Caesar said that men are quick to believe what they wish to be true. Everybody has an opinion, and they are allowed to have one. However, we so easily get caught up in their viewpoint that we start doubting ourselves. We even start questioning who we are. People are quick to judge others because it makes them feel better about their own lives. It is also easier to judge than to take the time to be open-minded and trying to put ourselves in the other person's shoes. Do not waste your energy trying to prove to them that their judgement of you is unfair. You are not going to change their mind. Just keep being who you are. The people who are of value in your life will be the ones who appreciate you for who you are.

Secondly, learn to talk less and listen more. Often we do not listen to understand, but we listen to answer back. Ironically, good communication is not about talking but about listening with attention. When we listen we give our brain a chance to make sense of the words and the nuances behind the words. It helps us to understand better and to get clarity about how we want to respond. It allows us to collect our thoughts.

Next, how about taking the time this month to learn something new. Maybe you have always wanted to learn more about astronomy or take up woodwork. Start learning about our beautiful galaxy this month. Go for a woodworking course. We are never too old to learn a new skill or discover more about the world around us.

The fourth key is laughter. Laugh more. Once a week, make a comedy date. Laughter is said to be the best medicine. A good laugh can help to lower our blood pressure and reduces stress.

Key number five, let us extend a helping hand. There are many areas where we could be of service. Maybe volunteer at the local pet shelter, or offer to buy groceries for a housebound person. My friend has started to read to her sight-impaired neighbour, and they have both benefitted from the arrangement. Reach out to somebody in need. Giving of your time is often far more valuable than giving money.

Next, get active. Join a gym or your local running club. Take your dogs for a daily walk around the neighbourhood. Walk to the shop instead of driving, or walk up the stairs instead of taking the elevator. Physical activity is not only good for your body but is beneficial for intellectual and mental health as well. It improves your blood circulation, lowers your blood pressure and stress levels. It releases all those feel-good hormones we need for a feeling of well-being.

Lastly, count your blessings. It is so easy to get caught up in a negative mindset. Complaining about our circumstances, the state the world is in, or the collapsing economy can become a destructive habit. So, instead of talking about all that is wrong, start to talk about everything that's good. Talk about your blessings. Look for the good in everything. It is all a matter of perspective.

Contemplate these seven keys, and then implement them. They are sure to open the door to a happier mindset. Have a great July!

Take Five - Blessing Jar

Today is the fifth post in our Take Five series of small changes. Due to a technology hitch, this post could not come out on Friday, but here it is for today. Three small changes. Most people think of Mondays in colours of blue. It does not have to be the case. For me, Mondays are always days filled with promise and opportunity.

Firstly, for preparation, I want you to get yourself a jar. An empty coffee jar will do the trick. Next, cut up some paper into 5 cm x 8 cm rectangles. Then, once you get home tonight, I would like you to turn the predictable Monday schedule on its head. Surprise your spouse and children tonight with a comedy night. Yes, make some hotdogs and a large bowl of popcorn, put on your PJ's and settle in front of the television and watch a comedy. You will be amazed what fun it is for the whole family to take a break from the norm.

Once the movie has finished and the children are in their beds, then it is time to pamper yourself. Run a hot foam bath for yourself, light some candles, and put on some relaxing music. Spoil yourself with a mask and pedicure.  Maybe you can ask hubby to give you a foot massage. Enjoy an hour of you-time.

Finally, settle into bed with your pre-cut papers, a pen, and your jar. Write down one thing you are grateful for this very moment, and remember to enter the date. Roll it up and put it into the bottle. This is your jar of blessings. If you do this one simple thing for a year, you will have 365 blessings. How wonderful is that?

I hope you have a wonderful day, be blessed, my dear reader.

 

Take Five - Day 4

What a beautiful morning! I hope you are well and excited about the day.  Small changes are what this week is all about. How are you doing with these suggestions so far? Today I thought it a great day to look at our nutrition. There is so much hype about eating clean, intermittent fasting, and keto dieting that it could be very confusing. Well, today's post is not about promoting any diet, but rather a lifestyle suggestion. Regardless of whether you are on a diet or not, there are some changes we could make. My suggestion for today is to make it a meatless day. You may eat anything you like, but no meat.  Replace your meat choices with vegetables, nuts, fruit, or even cheese.  Meat is an excellent source of protein, but too much could make you feel sluggish.  Taking a break from it once a week is a great way to improve your well-being.

The next idea I have for today is to "pay it forward ". Have you ever seen the movie, Pay It Forward, starring Kevin Spacey, Hellen Hunt, and Haley Joel Osment? It is a thought-provoking film and worth watching. The idea is that instead of paying a favour back to the person who bestowed it on you, you pay a favour to three other people. They likewise do the same. Today is your chance to pay it forward. It does not have to be something huge. Maybe you could pay for the parking of the person next in the queue. Perhaps you could get the tea lady at your work a slice of cake or the car guard a warm cup of coffee. Little acts of kindness can make a difference in somebody's life.

After a busy day, give yourself the evening off. Retire to bed an hour earlier than usual. You do not necessarily go to sleep, but you can relax and unwind from the day's stress. Disconnect all electronic devices except for your music player. Listen to soothing music. Write in your journal or read an extra chapter. This hour is yours.

Have a wonderful day, filled with happiness and purpose.

 

Take Five - Day 3

Another day of small changes.  Remember that drawer or desk which you de-cluttered?  Today is the day you are donating that bag.  You may feel embarrassed to donate something old and used, but remember that often what you deem as trash may just be somebody's treasure.  All that may be needed is to give the item a wash or replacing a button.  The action of giving something away is also good for our souls.  When we give to others we also realize how much we have to be grateful for.  That item you pass on may just make a difference in somebody else's life.

Another small change you can do today is something that may be long overdue.  Is there somebody in your life that you wish you could have written a letter to?  Is there some or other unresolved issue in your life.  Maybe you ended a relationship on a bad foot, or maybe you've lost somebody you dearly would have loved to talk to one last time?  Whether the person is alive or not, take the time to put pen to paper.  You do not even have to send the letter.  Just the action of writing it is enough to help you deal with the issue.  Pour your heart out, say exactly what you feel about the situation.  Let your hurt, anger, or disappointment flow out onto the paper and out of your heart.  It will lift a weight off your shoulders and healing can happen.

The third change for today is to detox from social media.  At least for today, or when you come home this evening.  All-day long, every day, we are attached to our electronic devices.  We can almost not breathe without it in our hands.  However, we need to take a break from it every so often.  Research has shown that people actually spend less time together than they do on social media.  We have even lost the ability to have a sensible conversation without social media.  We spent hours talking to somebody hundreds of miles away, but cannot talk for fifteen minutes to the person sitting next to us.  It is time for serious detoxing.  When you get home tonight, switch off your phone and disconnect your laptop.  Not only will you surprise your spouse and children, or your parents, you will also sleep much better.

Have a fabulous day!!!

 

Take Five - Day 2

Someone once asked a sage what would be the most profound wisdom he could share with the world.  After an extended silence, the old man finally replied.  "Only one thing is constant, and that is change."  Yet, change is the one thing we do not do easily.  We are creatures of habit. We love our comfort zones. However, change can be very good for us. Change brings us new opportunities. In the process, we experience growth and more insight into ourselves and the world around us. Change has the power to transform us. It can take us from living a caterpillar life to the life of a beautiful butterfly.  Talk about radical metamorphosis!

Today, we are going to address three areas of our lives.  The spiritual, relationships, and environment. Firstly, take ten minutes today and find a quiet spot. Clear your mind.  Yes, I want you to meditate.  Fill those ten minutes with calmness.  Let the worry and stress slip from your body.  Fill your lungs slowly with air.  Breathe deeply. Let the air replace the tension in your body.  Slowly breathe out.  Feel how all the negative thoughts flow out of you...

Next,  think about all the people you know.  Which person have you lost contact with? Is there someone you have not spoken to for a long time?  Why is it that you have lost contact?  Was it a dispute or a misunderstanding?  Maybe you simply never had the time?  Reach out to that person today.  Phone them, or send them a nice message.  Don't expect anything in return.  Just reach out and send them caring vibes.  You might just be the reason they smile today.

Our environment can play a large role in the way we feel.  Most of us function better in an orderly and comfortable environment.  When we are surrounded by clutter it works on a subconscious level.  It can add to our stress.  I want you to identify one area of clutter.  It could be your desk, a room, or a drawer.  Sort everything into three piles.  One pile is for recycling and one for donation. The third one is for keeping.  Ask yourself if you really need to keep it. Are you actually going to use it?  Even just the action of de-cluttering helps us to regain our focus.

Three small changes, yet it could open up new opportunities.  Try it.  Have a fabulous day!

Take Five

 A new week, and today, here in the Southern hemispheres, the days are slowly growing longer again.  This week I want to challenge you to make a few changes.  Five days, three daily changes, each one from a different area of your life.  Small changes can add up to big results over time.  Some of these changes may even begin a new habit for you.  So today, how about reading that one book you have been meaning to read, yet somehow you have been putting it off.  I know I have such a book next to my bed.  So, tonight will be the night.  Instead of watching my usual program, I am going to start on it and by Friday or Saturday, it will be done. That takes care of the mental area of my life.  

Now, health-wise, I think it is a good plan to cut out sugar for today, at least for the rest of today. Maybe I will try it tomorrow as well.  It is amazing to see just how much sugar we use daily.  Cutting out sugar can really make a big difference in a person's life.  

The third change for today will definitely be to take a walk.  Instead of collapsing on the nearest chair when you get home, how about putting on a pair of comfortable shoes and take to the road.  You don't need to do more than 30 minutes of walking to experience its invigorating effect.  Take your dogs along for the walk, they will certainly love it.

There you are, three little changes, but they are filled with feel-good effects.  Reading that book, cutting out sugar, and taking a walk, what can be easier.  Have fun!  See you tomorrow for the next three little changes.